Miami is very different than New York and after two and a half years of freelancing here and there; I manifested a job as Director of Marketing & Public Relations for NY Times Best Selling Author, International Sales Master, entrepreneur and self-made multimillionaire Grant Cardone. Working with Grant inspired me to use my own special gifts and talents to help others. It also made me hyper anxious about my own financial future. Grant is all about entrepreneurship and freedom. I too wanted to become a self-made multimillionaire. I too had big dreams and knew that to fulfill them, I had to do so on my terms.

I dove deeper into Kabbalah and it put me on a spiritual path that led to understanding Law of Attraction and quantum physics to deliberately create the life I want one thought at a time. The more I walked my path the more the universe provided the people and circumstances that would serve me, even the ones that seemed horrible and were incredibly painful.

In 2015, I decided to invest in my personal and professional growth. I had reached a point where I knew I couldn’t keep doing the same thing the same way wishing for a different result. I had to raise my own standards to be better, learn and grow. I had to love myself first and most.

I wondered why my relationships wouldn’t go anywhere. I kept attracting men who just wanted casual fun, yet I wanted a deeper connection and a commitment. But, how can I commit to anyone fully? I was still technically married. I was noncommittal to myself by remaining legally married! So how can I possibly expect anyone to commit to me if I can’t even commit to myself?

Having had enough of being stuck, I decided to ask my husband what we were doing? This was when he suggested we get divorced. I always had hope of reconciliation. I never thought this would happen to us. We never even spoke of divorce ever yet here we were. It was the saddest I ever felt.

In my sad state of mind and energy, I made the mistake of not going inward and turning to my primary relationship; the one between me and ME, me and God. I was so sad and broken that I attracted someone even more sad and broken than I. I ignored my better judgment, my intuition and entered a 5-month rebound relationship which felt like 3 years. He was a depressed broken man and now, looking back, should have been a LoveQuest client, not a boyfriend. I had no business getting romantically involved with this man. Yet, this relationship overlapping with my divorce was the one-two knock-out punch that launched me into the necessary cultivation of unconditional self-love. Codependents cannot be alone and typically will use a new relationship to get over a relationship. Codependents are also a target for toxic narcissistic abusers.

This rebound relationship rattled me to my core because deep down, I knew better. I ignored the many red flags and hurt myself putting my faith and well-being in someone other than myself. When this relationship ended, I was in a tailspin. I felt as if I was pushed into a 30-foot ditch and the only way out was to climb out on my own. I was, for the first time totally alone. Yet, I wasn’t. I’d come to realize that I had God! God never leaves us so we are never, ever alone. We always have ourselves.

I couldn’t eat, couldn’t sleep and was in emotional turmoil. I lost 13 pounds in 3 weeks. I lived on chocolate milk, fruit shakes, yogurt and soup. My stomach locked up. I couldn’t eat certain foods I’d associate with the rebound guy, steak, oysters, mussels. I couldn’t go to certain places without being triggered even certain sounds would trigger me. My mind wasn’t right. I was in big trouble.

I took full responsibility for all I attracted in my life. I started to dive even deeper into self-care, and working on healing and understanding me. I read and listened to Law of Attraction guru, Abraham Hicks, and other spiritual masters, therapists and even neuroscientists. People like Wayne Dyer, Louise Hay, Tony Robbins, Dr. Joe Dispenza, Dr. Margaret Paul, Jennifer Grace, Jen Sincero and others were part of my “team Lisa.”

I hired a therapist and committed to two critical things first, healing from my divorce and the loss of my best friend, and learning to love myself unconditionally; first and most. I also gave myself a timeframe to shoot for.

I did what I called my “90 Day Post Break-Up Detox.” I took to social media and documented my personal journey in daily videos. I meditated, wrote in my journal, exercised, and committed to fully healing myself. I refrained from dating anyone. I spoke to my therapist every other week, listened to law of attraction guru, Abraham Hicks every day, and after a few months a stronger self-loving version of myself emerged.

I was me! Lisa Concepcion. I got my driver’s license and my passport in my maiden name. I thought I would be sad about changing my name and instead, I felt powerful. I was feeling much better, happier, clearer, excited for what I could create. I also felt strong knowing that no one will ever love me better than me, that I AM NEVER ALONE! I am with God and God never leaves me, ever. I finally knew that no one could hurt me because they’re not responsible for my happiness. I AM!