5 Signs You're In Your Masculine Energy

These are 5 signs you’re in your masculine energy plus why this energy is a turn off to strong high quality men. You aren’t intimidating. You’re off putting. Here’s why and what to do about it so you can attract the high quality man and healthy relationship you truly want.

5 Signs Your In Your Masculine Energy

Samantha “Sammy” has a great career yet at 30, wonders why she hasn’t met “The One.”

1. You struggle to attract high quality men and instead attract men who might appear great at first but then soon reveal their weaknesses which may include an inability to perform sexually, lack of emotional awareness, an inability to connect, unavailability and zero interest in long term commitment (marriage).

2. You presume men are intimidated by your achievements and independence. The truth is, high quality men do want a woman who is independent and proud of her achievements and the life she’s created for herself.

   However, high quality men want to be received by a quality feminine woman. They want to know what you want from them more than what you can do for yourself. They want a partner, a woman; not dude energy in a dress and heels.

   When you lead conversation with your achievements instead of communicating what you do from a more feminine energy, (which I teach high achieving women how to do) you turn men off.

“A powerful, intelligent, classy independent, yet feminine woman attracts Alpha Males like a moth to a flame. Most women today lead with their masculine energy which attracts weak men.”

— Lisa Concepcion, CPC, ELMP, Dating & Relationship Expert/Consultant

Julia went on a date which triggered memories of her overbearing father. She left the date came home and collapsed into a bath crying about her father’s lack of attention.

3. You have unresolved trauma and men trigger you. Still dealing with old wounds from being raised by parents who didn’t love you the way you needed to be loved?

Do you find yourself still thinking of a past relationship?

Are you operating from a place of fear, anxiety, unworthiness?

You are probably incredibly good at what you do in your career but when it comes to relationships you struggle.

And… because high achievers are problem solvers; perhaps you’ve done seminars, courses, retreats, read a bunch of self help books. Awesome!!

However, you haven’t integrated all that info so that you actually change your mindset and behaviors in your day-to-day life.

While you may have a lot of great information in your mind; you didn’t achieve integration so there hasn’t been any transformation. This Free LoveLife Assessment lays out exactly what is holding you back from having the relationship you truly want.

Jen, a former control freak learned to let go and be secure in her feminine energy. When she did she attracted that romantic guy she always wanted.

4. You have this need to take the lead and have trouble receiving from others, especially men.

Do you pick out the restaurant? Make the reservations? Walk in first and give your name to the hostess asking for a certain table? Are you proving something? What? What do you want a man to think of you?

“A high quality man wants to take the lead and a feminine woman lets him and reaps all the benefit of letting a man be a man. Chivalry isn’t dead to a feminine woman and a masculine man. ”

— Lisa Concepcion, aka "Lisa The Love Coach"

What if you sat back, took a breath and relaxed into your body? What if you spoke a bit slower, settled that hurried energy and clearly expressed what kind of food you love, places you’d love to try and then left it all to him? You just roll up like the Queen and watch him stand to acknowledge your presence when you walk in. You smile, and say “thank you for taking care of setting all of this up. I’m excited to get to know you.”

Bree is always so wiped out after work that she doesn’t get to personal time until 10pm which usually involves alcohol to calm her down.

5. You feel exhausted and in “go mode” all the time.

My love, you need to focus less on what you are doing and more on who you are being. Masculine energy is a doing energy. It’s all about to do lists and buzzing around like a little bee getting things done.

Masculine energy is a giving energy. Are you giving and giving at work and then in your relationships?

Feminine energy on the other hand is a relaxed energy of ease and flow. A feminine woman’s strength is her confidence that all is, and will be well.

Feminine energy is fluid, a feminine woman is mindful of her posture, her gait, her tone of voice, knows when to just be.

Self care is a very important part of harnessing your feminine energy. For more on how to do that click here for 5 Things to Do to Harness Your Feminine Energy.

I used to be swirling in my masculine energy. It was rooted in fear and codependency, the need to control chaos. It was all due to childhood programming. I handled it. I help other success minded, goal orientated women to shift into their feminine energy. Want to learn how? Drop me a note, tell me what’s going on with you and let’s get you on a path towards attracting the love you truly want. You can connect with me here.