Why You Attract Psycho Women Who Cheat
So you’re Googling “why do I attract psycho women who cheat” and arrived here. Perhaps you find yourself in another relationship with a narcissistic, disloyal woman. You are fed up with dealing with these psychos and really want to attract a good woman to love, one who will love you back and respect you.
Perhaps you are still with this psycho and want to help her become better. She won’t. It’s time to end this relationship, take one full year off of dating anyone and work on becoming someone who ONLY attracts good women. No more crazy psychos.
I’m a Certified Professional Life Coach so I’m giving it to you straight. You cannot attract healthy love from an unhealthy place. The fact that you keep attracting psycho women who cheat is an indicator that you have an opportunity to heal some profound wounds deep inside you.
Key Psychological Reasons You Attract Disloyal or “Crazy” Women
This is all rooted in your Childhood and Teenage Years.
Unresolved Issues With Your Mother or Codependency / Enmeshment
If your mother was a psycho, emotionally off her rocker, would either yell or withdraw love and affection, was manipulative, or inconsistent, and withholding of affection, nurturing, praise, you may subconsciously equate chaos with connection. Your nervous system confuses unpredictability with passion and "love."
The more peaceful and chill you feel in a relationship the more healthy it is.
Your wounded Inner Child is the one attracting these psycho women because your nervous system is programmed to. Luckily this can be changed. You can reprogram your nervous system through Inner Child Reconnection and Reparenting which is what I teach.
The good news is that it takes around 45 to 90 days to reprogram your mind, nervous system and energy so that you become the man who no longer attracts psycho women who cheat. If you have tried therapy and felt it didn’t help or aren’t a fan of therapy, life coaching is a far better option.
Men prefer coaching because it’s the same as a coach in any sport. Many men had coaches as kids when they played sports so they experienced the benefit of someone who can teach them how to improve. Coaching is results focused which men like.
You can start here with your free assessment or you can skip that step and get on my calendar to get you the clarity you need to end this pattern once and for all.
2. Lack of Male Role Models or Boundary Modeling
If your dad wasn’t around or was a total SIMP being bullied and overrun by your mom, or was abusive, cold, distant, angry, critical of you, and he didn’t appear like a strong leader because mom ran everything, or if you were raised by a single mom who badmouthed your dad, you may not have had a true masculine role model.
This is very common today given the number of divorces and single mothers.
You never learned how to develop standards and the ability to assert boundaries. Also, your self-worth is more about what others think of you, which has you constantly seeking external validation.
If you never learned how to claim leadership in a relationship because it wasn’t your norm, then you will attract dominant or emotionally chaotic women.
This is your opportunity to become a true masculine badass who attracts feminine women who will adore and respect you. The best part is that you get to learn how to reconnect with that little boy inside you who has been waiting for you to love him and lead him the way you needed to be loved and led as a kid but wasn’t.
This is what it means to “do the work.” It’s how you heal and change your life.
This is how you reclaim wasted time and emerge clear and strong so that you can decide what you want and go for it.
I help men just like you to become who the best version of themselves so they stop attracting psycho women who cheat. Many have gone on to have happy, healthy, peaceful relationships, found their wife, had kids. I’ve been coaching since 2017. I have many stories. You’re not alone.
Many of the men I coach also have walked away from toxic relationships and chose to take time to create their best life. Some created businesses, lost weight, leveled up professionally and moved to a new city to start a whole new life.
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3. Validation Addiction from Early Rejection
Many of my clients may have been bullied as a kid, or weren't given the praise and emotional support required to build a strong sense of self. So when it comes to women, they try hard to be liked and they get taken advantage of just so they aren’t rejected.
They go along to get along. Or maybe they felt invisible as a kid and as a teen. So now they seek romantic relationships to validate their worthiness.
When a guy tries hard to be the good guy or the nice guy, he often ignores red flags just to be chosen. He becomes a magnet for narcissistic women who use him then toss him aside when they are done.
Also, if he’s achieved financial success he still wants the pretty girl on his arm to get approval and admiration from society yet, he fails to vet these women and often attracts users, and women who need fixing.
4. People-Pleasing as a Survival Mechanism
Perhaps you learned early that being “good,” putting the needs of others ahead of your own was how to get love. You were programmed to earn love by being helpful or “always there” for people no matter what.
This is how you started to become a people pleaser as a child and teen. You wanted to connect with others so badly and wanted their approval and love that you even tolerated disrespect.
The People Pleaser becomes the SIMP, the man who is bossed around giving women the “Princess Treatment” before deciding if she is even worthy of such treatment.
These are the types of men who try and save broken women. It’s a trap. You’re reading this article to this point because you are fed up with this trap.
5. Shame Around Masculine Power
This is very common with men who grew up with a manipulative mother and a passive father who never stood up for himself, or had a single mom or divorced mom who spoke negatively about the father or men in general.
If you were put into a caretaker role for your mother because you were the “man of the house” and you played the role of her ideal male figure and became soft and self sacrificing so mom get whatever mom wanted, (the mommas boy archetype), only to get her disappointment and even anger when you asserted yourself, you were conditioned to attract manipulative women who need saving.
You were taught to downplay your masculinity. Your mother talked to you as she would a girlfriend or sister complaining about men. She didn’t honor your own masculinity. She taught you being masculine meant pleasing her and women in general. She taught you nothing about self respect.
Once you give to these women and save them, instead of appreciating you, they toss you aside and start affairs because they lose respect for you. You lost your masculine frame which is what women truly want; a stoic, emotionally aware man who knows who he is, his value and doesn’t allow anyone to play him. He’s kind and cares deeply for people but has standards for who he gives his care, concern and resources to. These people better measure up to his standard otherwise he denies them access.
This is how he gets respect.
Giving to people who mistreat you teaches them that your kindness is your weakness.
You weren’t taught to maintain your masculine frame. You were taught to give women whatever they wanted to get their love replaying your dynamic with your mother.
I’ll add that since the 1970’s, society has been deliberately weakening men and true masculinity. We see this accelerated today with polite, gentlemanly behaviors such as holding a door for a woman or initiating conversation as “toxic masculinity.”
Many men refuse to date feminists while others say they are feminists themselves. It’s a wild time to be a man with values, morals and true masculinity.
If any of these dynamics described thus far resonates with you and you want to change then this is the time. Imagine having daily contact with a woman who empowers you as you heal years of bad programming.
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If you were shamed for being assertive, sexual, or dominant, you may suppress these traits, attracting women who either walk all over you—or cheat to find masculine energy elsewhere.
Should you choose to proceed in getting to the root of what causes you to attract psycho women who cheat on you here are some questions we would explore.
The clarity you need will come from questions like these. They are very confronting which is why support is necessary.
"When you think back to your first experiences with love or attention as a teen, who did you feel you had to become in order to be loved or noticed?"
"If you think that it’s normal to feel anxious, unsure, or disrespected in love, when do you think that belief was planted?"
"If the boy you were at 14 could see the kind of women you’ve allowed into your life—what would he say to you?" What if you took full responsibility for your younger versions of you and decided only YOU make the decisions when it comes to women? How would life change if the adult version of you started calling the shots?
"Have you ever considered that your loyalty to women who betray you might be a sign that you’ve betrayed yourself first?" What if you learned how to set new standards and boundaries?
"What if the reason your relationships feel so painful… is because you’ve never had a safe space to be the real you with a woman who respects your masculine core?"
If this article hits home, know that you found this information and solution for a reason. You’re ready for change.
I work with men who are done attracting chaos and ready to become the kind of man who commands respect, devotion, and peace in love.
Guys love coaching with me because they experience what it is like to interact daily with a woman who respects them and offers the support and nurturing they need. Imagine being able to express yourself to a woman without any anxiety, fear, or walking on eggshells.
Imagine just speaking freely and learning how to reconnect with yourself so you heal the past and begin to create your ideal future.
Let’s break the cycle. You got this. But… it requires you to take action.
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~Lisa Concepcion, Certified Professional Life Coach for Narcissistic Abuse Recovery and Codependency Cure
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