Why You’re In Your Masculine Energy and How to Get into Your Feminine Energy
Most of my clients want to get into their feminine energy. There are a lot of posts and videos across social media platforms about women realizing that they are attracting weak, immature, unavailable, men who seem more like boys.
If you’re reading this, you’re one of those people who want to know why you are in your masculine energy and how you can shift into feminine energy so that you can attract a man who is emotionally mature, ready for an adult relationship, a man with clarity and certainty about his life, who is a leader and a giver.
After getting clear on what has you in your masculine energy, which this article will list out, you can begin to heal and make some necessary mindset shifts, and start caring for yourself so that you can receive a confident, stable, secure, capable man who actually wants to lead a family and can.
This important shift is what I help women to do.
You can get started by telling me more about you and your situation in this Free LoveLife Assessment.
Masculine energy is typically associated with action, structure, control, assertiveness, and focus, whereas feminine energy is more about intuition, receptivity, and nurturing.
The goal is to be balanced in both masculine and feminine energies.
There is a time for focus and action and then there’s a time to chill and relax knowing everything will work out.
Feminine energy is about stepping out of the need for control, fear of the unknown, attachment to outcomes, and stepping into letting go, surrendering with faith.
This letting go with faith requires emotional self regulation which is achieved through self love and self care.
A self regulating, feminine woman possesses a superpower that is magnetic to masculine, determined, disciplined, capable men.
Men see this feminine woman as an incredible asset who he cherishes. Want a masculine man? Then commit fully to being his feminine counterpart. That is the real essence of the “Power Couple.”
Let’s get into the many factors that can push women into their masculine energy which is typically a reaction to life’s more stressful pressures.
She’s the primary provider.
If you’re a single woman doing it all on your own, self reliant and secure in your profession then of course you want a man on your level. The problem is you’re attracting men who want mommies or attracting unavailable men and players. Learn how to get out of “work mode” and into the receptive mode. Leave work at work. Create an alter ego who is a femme fatale. Who smiles, glides when she walks, breathes fully and is present in her body.
Stop talking about work. Stop selling how independent you are. Show don’t tell. Let him see how you live, how you carry yourself, what your preferences are. Men are smart. They can tell when a woman does well for herself. She doesn’t have to sell her accomplishments so much.
Helpful hack: Talk about WHY you do the work you do.
2. She’s a single mom.
A woman who is raising a child alone is taking on both a more masculine role protector and provider plus the role of nurturer. She’s always on the go balancing everything and giving to her child or children. Receiving is foreign to her. While she wants nothing more than a man to love her, she’s too busy in go mode to slow it down and allow space to receive.
Helpful hack: Get support! Send kids to stay with grandparents, aunts, cousins so that you have a break for self care, and to actually be in an adult relationship.
3. Feminist pressure to be a “strong independent woman.”
Feminism lost its way. I’m 53, GenX and we were the first generation brainwashed into working for “the man” being a tax paying slave and calling it liberation.
I see plenty of feminists out there behaving like weak, insecure children. There’s nothing strong and independent about them.
They are emotionally manipulated and narcissistic.
They repulse masculine men and attract the one and done, hit it and quit it types.
Thankfully more and more women are moving away from the more radicalized feminism of today and want to be more feminine.
More and more women are boldly admitting that they prefer working from home in a career that fulfills them so they can also be a mom and even homeschool their children.
Helpful Hack: Read Occult Feminism by Rachel Wilson and get the real tea on the origins of Feminism.
4. Relationship imbalance where she’s in charge.
When a woman is giving, leading and navigating the relationship she’ll get depleted. She’s giving, fixing, planning, doing it all while he sits back and takes. This imbalance turns women into the man they truly want.
Helpful hack: Instead of fixing, pleading and trying to change him. Avoid emotionally distant men who aren’t domesticated and don’t live impeccably.
5. Workplace Environment
If she works in a male-dominated industry or manages a team of men she may carry this into her personal life. She’s a problem solver at work so it’s difficult for her to ask for help with anything. She'd rather do it herself faster. She values efficiency and speed and may come across as direct and unemotional which gets respect in the workplace but needs to be softened in order to thrive in relationships.
Helpful Hack: Practice receiving from men everywhere you go. When the kind kid bagging your groceries asks if you want help, say YES!! Let him escort you to your car, put the water bottles and bags into your car. Just because you could, doesn't mean you should. Let men cater to you and start stepping into your feminine power.
Feminine power isn’t about doing it all. It’s about being able to have others do for you willingly.
6. Dealing with Emotional Trauma or Stress
This shows up as managing situations and pushing emotions aside to keep on going. It’s a coping mechanism to help to deal with a stressful situation in an energy of “doing.” In this case vulnerability is perceived as weakness and a woman may appear to be handling it all but then cries herself to sleep.
Helpful Hint: Hire a professional to offer you a safe space to vent and work out your traumas and stress. If you’re too in your head, I can help you get into your heart and give yourself the love, care, nurturing, compassion you need instead of just moving from one fire to another.
7. Over-functioning or People-Pleasing
Women think that giving to others and taking on extra responsibilities and “being there” for friends, family, work colleagues is being feminine and nurturing. Nope!
Nurturing is encouraging others that they can solve their own problems. It’s believing in others when they don’t believe in themselves. It’s helping them come up with their own ideas and solutions. Not doing it all for them.
Helpful Hack: Be mindful of any time you are in a doing mode. Taking on other people’s stuff and pleasing others out of fear of losing them.
Click here to get on my calendar if people-pleasing is your thing to resolve. I can definitely help.
8. Fear of Rejection or Failure
When a woman has deep fears due to unresolved past issues she’s operating from woundedness. She’s likely to struggle to trust others, is hyper-independent, avoids vulnerability and may even be hardened.
She may have been burned before and fears falling in love only to get rejected again. She may fear making her needs known because her needs weren’t met as a child. She was taught to just “suck it up” which causes a woman to detach and lose herself.
She ends up in a push pull dynamic within herself. Wanting love but fearing it won’t work out and she’ll be hurt, rejected and a failure again.
This chart outlines all aspects of masculine and feminine energy.
If you are struggling with the same relationship patterns and want to get into your feminine energy, reach out to me and I’ll teach you exactly what I did to shift into my feminine energy.
You can get on my calendar by clicking here.
You can get your Free LoveLife Assessment by clicking here.
Here’s the next article to read on masculine and feminine energy.
Lisa Concepcion aka “Lisa The LoveLife Coach”
~Lisa Concepcion, Certified Professional Life Coach, Founder of LoveQuestCoaching.com a Personal Development Academy that helps intelligent people who struggle with romantic relationships.